BailAMale

BailAMale — Privacy Policy

Effective date: 24 August 2026
Last updated: 13 October 2026
Contact: support@bailamale.com

BailAMale ("the app," "we") helps husbands be better partners with AI-powered relationship coaching. Privacy isn't a legal checkbox for us — the app only works if you can be honest inside it, so we treat what you tell us like a friend would: it stays between us.

What we collect

What you give us:

• Account info: your name and email, from Google or Apple sign-in. We never see or store your password.
• Your onboarding answers: what you tell us about your relationship — her name, love language, how you two argue, your goals. This exists to personalize your coaching.
• Things you save in the app: daily mood check-ins, notes in the Vault, important dates, chat conversations with your coach, and how advice worked out.
• Photos you attach to notes stay on your device only — they are never uploaded.
• Your phone's calendar, only if you connect it. If you turn calendar sync on, we read the titles and dates of upcoming events for the next three weeks so the coach knows what's coming (an anniversary, her parents visiting). Titles only — never locations, guests, or notes. You can disconnect it any time in the app, and we keep nothing after you do.
• Family information you choose to share. The onboarding asks about kids, and one of the answers is "expecting." That makes it pregnancy information, which counts as sensitive data — so we declare it as such on the App Store and treat it that way: it exists to make the coaching fit your life, and for nothing else.

Collected automatically:

• Usage analytics (via PostHog): which screens you use, feature events, device type. We do NOT send the content of your messages, notes, or answers to analytics — only that an action happened (e.g., "a coach message was sent").
• Purchase status (via RevenueCat and Apple): whether you have an active subscription. We never see your payment card.
• Basic technical data: IP address (used briefly for abuse prevention rate-limiting), app version.

If you join the waitlist on this website

The email box on bailamale.com stores the email you type and the time you sent it, in our database (Supabase). We use it for one thing: telling you when BailAMale is out. It isn't shared, isn't used for ads, and isn't linked to an app account. To be taken off the list, email support@bailamale.com.

Before you even have an account (read this one)

Onboarding asks what's going on in your relationship — including, if you're in the middle of something, what the fight was about and what she said. Those answers are sent to OpenAI to generate your first piece of advice before you sign in and before you have an account. We think you should know that at the point you type it, not afterwards.

That text is held only as long as it takes to produce the reply and to carry your answers into the account you create at the end. If you quit onboarding without signing up, nothing is tied to a person — there is no account for it to belong to. We also count anonymous requests by IP address, purely to stop one machine hammering the coach. That count is only ever read on the day it's made, is deleted automatically within three days, and is used for nothing else.

How the AI coaching works (read this one)

When you message your coach, we send your message — along with the relationship context you've saved (her name, your survey answers, recent moods, notes, upcoming dates) — to OpenAI's API to generate the reply. OpenAI processes it to produce the response and does not use API data to train its models. Your conversations are not used to train any AI. All AI calls happen from our servers, never directly from your device.

The coach also gets a short summary of your recent conversations — roughly when they happened, what you came in with, and the one suggestion it gave you — so it stops repeating itself and can notice when something keeps coming up. That summary is built on your device from conversations you already have; nothing new is stored to make it.

Where your data lives

Your app data is stored locally on your device first, and backed up (encrypted in transit) to our database (Supabase) so it survives phone changes. Your data is isolated to your account — database rules make it technically impossible for another user to read your rows.

What we never do

• We never sell your data. To anyone. Ever.
• We never show ads or share your data with advertisers.
• We never contact your partner, and there is nothing for her to download — that's the point of the app.
• We never use your conversations to train AI models.

Who we share with (our service providers, doing narrow jobs)

Provider	Job	What they handle
Supabase	database, sign-in	your account + synced app data, and waitlist emails
OpenAI	generates coach replies	messages + coaching context, transiently
PostHog	analytics	usage events (no content)
RevenueCat / Apple	subscriptions	purchase status
Google / Apple	sign-in	your email and name

No other sharing, except if the law compels us.

Deleting your data

In the app: Settings → Delete Account removes your account and everything synced to our servers. It is a real delete, not a flag — the rows are gone. Deleting the app from your phone removes all local data. By email: contact us and we'll delete everything tied to your account.

Your rights

You can request a copy of your data, correct it, or delete it — email us. We're based in Ontario, Canada (PIPEDA applies); if you're elsewhere, we honor the spirit of your local privacy law rather than lawyering about jurisdiction.

Sensitive stuff, said plainly

Relationship information is intimate. We designed around that: local-first storage, no partner-facing features, no content in analytics, no ads, no data sales. If we're ever acquired or shut down, your data either transfers under this same policy or gets deleted — those are the only two options.

Not therapy

BailAMale is coaching-style advice generated by AI. It is not therapy, medical care, or crisis support, and no therapist-client relationship exists. If you're in crisis, contact the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline (call/text 988 in the US and Canada).

Age

BailAMale is for adults (18+).

Changes

If this policy changes meaningfully, we'll tell you in the app before the change applies.